Owning Your Dermatillomania

Owning Your Dermatillomania

 

Mental illness is stigmatized, misunderstood, and is a topic of conversation that is generally avoided.

That’s why owning up to the fact that you have a mental illness like Dermatillomania, which is arguably stigmatized and misunderstood to a greater degree than other mental illnesses, is an intimidating process.

“I think it’s difficult owning Dermatillomania because everybody picks something,” skin-picking sufferer and Picking Me Foundation Founder and CEO Lauren McKeaney said. “To take a habit or a behavior and to have a category where yeah everybody does it, but if you do it to this extent [then you have a problem]. It puts us at this weird middle ground where we wonder if we want to admit that, or want to be in that category. That’s the stigma we are trying to break.”

At Picking Me Foundation, brave Dermatillomania sufferers often send us details about their battle with this disorder. Sending us their stories is a form of ownership and we don’t take for granted how difficult this process of opening up is. Often, the first time sufferers talk about their Dermatillomania is with us.

"Okay here goes nothing, I pull and peel the skin off the tips of my finger,” Dermatillomania sufferer Dawn wrote to Picking Me Foundation. “I have always been too embarrassed to talk about this to ANYONE. And I am over 60 years old. I have done this since as far back as I can remember. It started with nail biting in grade school. I feel very alone in the world with this."

Taking ownership of your Dermatillomania isn’t easy, but it’s a liberating feeling as sufferers reclaim a part of their life that their skin picking had previously taken away from them.  

“When you do take ownership, it’s like a weight lifted and you feel freer,” McKeaney said. “You say ‘yeah I have it.’ It’s hard and daunting for a lot of sufferers at first but once they get that taste of the feeling of the world didn’t end when I owned it, that’s the route they want to go because they see that their quality of life improves.”

Owning your dermatillomania can take many different forms.

  • Advocate: McKeaney is the queen of this as advocating dermatillomania is the crux of Picking Me Foundation’s mission as she strives to encourage sufferers to choose themselves over the mental illness that chose them.
  • Telling your story: when people ask “what’s with your skin,” use this as an opportunity to tell all or part of your story.
  • Create a social media account on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and follow different people and organizations associated with Dermatillomania to get a feel for the vibe of this community. This will also give you a pool of people who you can reach out to who you know understand what you are going through.
  • Educate: Dermatillomania is stereotyped, stigmatized, and misunderstood. Make the world a less ignorant place and teach others about Dermatillomania. If you’re comfortable enough to do it unprompted, channel your inner prophet and spread the word on skin picking. But like telling your story, casual instances where people ask ‘what’s with your skin’ or other questions are perfect opportunities as well.
  • Take The Picking Me Pledge: it challenges sufferers to commit to something that they are doing over their picking. By taking the pledge, they are acknowledging that they have Dermatillomania while holding themselves accountable to make sure they are picking something else over the mental illness.
  • Taking ownership can also take the form of recognizing signs that you are about to pick. You are acknowledging that the picking is a problem and consciously taking steps to correct it. Knowing your triggers, being cognizant of where your hands are and what they are doing are all ways to do this.

Although ownership is difficult, it’s ultimately worth it.

“You live the life you deserve to live when you own it,” McKeaney said. “There’s a different fluidity and ease than there was before.”