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Take part in our #SelfLoveNote Challenge!


Self-love isn’t selfish; it’s self-care.


Spread the self love this February by posting your own #selflovenote!
All you have to do is take a picture holding a sign that says #selflovenote. Then in the caption, starting with "I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because," share what you love about yourself! It can be anything from "I love the way I make ice cream sundaes" or "I love how reliable of a friend I am," or "I love the skin I'm in," YOU decide!

Make sure to tag your submission with @pickingmefdn, DM us or fill out the form below

Don't forget to tag #PickingMe with your self love note post! 

Don't have social media? Just submit your #selflovenote in the form below!

And if you'd like to continue spreading the love, consider donating $14 in honor of Vday and Skin Picking Disorder advocacy.

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Your generosity will help us to spread Skin Picking Disorder awareness, connect with and support sufferers around the world,
and continue to encourage the importance of #selflove!

2021 #selflovenote gallery!

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    "I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I am worthy of love."
    -Lauren, Chicago, @laurenmckeaney
  • "I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my creative spirit, drive and voice!
    -Meredith, Chicago, @slaughterhigh
  • "I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I'm a kintsugi perfect mess of marks and flaws.....healed and reformed over the years....so this is me. Now."
    -Lucy, @pookpayingattention
  • "I’m Aneela, a co-founder of @habitaware & a hair puller (#trichotillomania) in #recovery! I am #PickingMe this #valentinesday because I AM WORTHY! I hope all you folks out there struggling with #anxiety #bfrbs #depression #ocd and other #mentalhealth disorders take time to shower yourselves with #LOVE and COMPASSION....those things are not reserved just for the ones you care about!!!""
    -Aneela, @habitaware
  • "I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because every time I figure something out about my BFRB or my mental health, it feels like something ‘clicks’ in my head and I know I’m taking a step forward in not just my skin journey - but I’m gaining wisdom that I can use in other aspects of my life, too!"
    -Mari
  • "I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I deserve not to hate my skin. I want to see my skin and not feel the need to start picking at any perceived blemish. I'm sick of constantly having to bandage wounds and alter my clothing because of my skin. I want to be free!"
    -@sensitive_panda_710, Miranda
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I'm sick of the physical pain I feel in my hands to do simple tasks. I am always anxious about getting my hands wet whether it's doing dishes or brushing my teeth. In the healing process the dryness stings and I know I am the only person who can put an end to this. I'm at a point where enough is enough. I have two beautiful boys that I want to inspire and be strong for, and a wonderful husband who supports me in everything I do. Building new habits take practice and with intention and self-awareness I believe I can conquer this. I am ready to let go and find a better habit to take comfort in. This Valentine's Day, I choose me, not pick me ♥️"
    -@growthfromtheinsideout, Natasha
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love myself and my skin! Can’t wait to share results with you all soon!”
    -@km.derma, Katelyn
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because beauty and self worth isn’t reserved for folx with clear skin.”
    -@neonboyfriend
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love me, just the way I am!”
    -@nalamidnight
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I am enough. I am worthy. I am funny and joyful. I am colourful. I am a caring person. I am unique and creative.”
    -@you_me_andocd
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because my hands deserve loving energy.”
    -@anxiouslybalanced
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I deserve peace, love, and respect—from both myself and others!
    I’ve always been open on this acct about mental health, and I’m glad to say that my picking has been doing tremendously better lately! Through bouts of anxiety and my highs/lows, I’ve continued a winning streak of doing well. But it’s okay to not do well, either! We aren’t defined by our wins or our losses, we’re just simply pushing on”
    -@baemie_slunt
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I LOVE MYSELF - REGARDLESS OF WHAT MY SKIN LOOKS LIKE. My skin is not what makes me a supportive friend, a loyal partner, a loving daughter, or a strong young woman. No one at your funeral will ever say “she had the most beautiful skin.” We all need to focus on loving who we are beyond our physical bodies because we are SO, SO MUCH MORE!!!”
    -@risewithdawn, Dawn
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because we all deserve self love, all of the time.”
    -@pinkgrinch, Shannelle
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I don’t want my anxiety to destroy my skin.”
    -@huggyprincess
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking this Valentine’s Day because I am worthy of being treated with care.

    Hence the bandaid on my finger, BFRB’s are no joke. @pickingmefdn is near and dear to my heart for this reason. So grateful for them in reminding me to pick ME this month and every month in between. And I hope you do too.”
    -@stickwithit.ink

  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I want to own my life and myself with no more shame, finally.”
    -@itszsonasty_
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I have learned to love me naked. I have learned to accept that every day will have it’s challenges but I am never given ones I can not handle. I am still learning each day & am grateful for how far I’ve come.”
    -@kati8ight
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because this year taught me I can take back control of my mental health.”
    -@audreydesjardin
  • "I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because loving myself as I am is the best gift I could possibly give myself. If there's one thing I've learned through my journey of #dermatillomania, it's that I can't let skin picking get in the way of my happiness. I only have one life to live, and I choose to be grateful for what I have and to strive for a better tomorrow. I'm picking me because I am worthy, and so are you..”
    -@derma.healing

2020 #selflovenote gallery!

  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my creativity.
    -Meredith, Chicago, @slaughterhigh
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I deserve to be seen.
    -Lauren, Chicago, @laurenmckeaney
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love blogging about mental illness. My hands and my mind matter. I depend on my hands to type blogs; it is important that my hands aren’t sore and wounded from picking. I depend on my mind to help me spread awareness; it is important that I have an eased mind so I can confidently share my experiences.
    -Elizabeth, @uncustomaryhousewife
  • I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because:⠀
    1. I think I have a killer smile⠀
    2. I make awesome grilled cheeses ⠀
    3. Cats like me, and that takes a special kind of person
    4. I am worthy of love.
    -Cambria, LA, @_adulting201_
  • I’m #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my art, and have a lot more to do and learn! The fading scars are helping me realize that I have control, and I can make it through this disorder!
    -Alice, OH, @some_.type._of_shepherd
  • We’re #PickingMe over Skin Picking this Galentine’s Day! Self-love is so important!
    -@Notalonenotes
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I have value, worth AND beauty regardless of how my skin looks! Happy Valentine's Day, don't forget to give yourself some love because you deserve love!!!!
    -Cat, New York, @neonboyfriend
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my body & I love my skin. I owe it to myself to treat it kindly. I am worthy of forgiveness and respect-despite consistent relapses. It took me the majority of my life to reclaim my body, and I am PROUD of it. And you should all be too.
    -@dermatillotoons
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my creativity and determination.
    -Sophie, @sophbethriv
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my huge heart
    -I love my creative mind
    -I love helping others overcome #Dermotillomania
    -I love my #skin and how hard it works for me.
    -I love my smile
    -@your.healthy.skin.coach, CO
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking because I love my freckles and want them to be what people notice about my skin instead of my scabs/picks. I encourage everyone to reflect on what they love about themselves today! You deserve it!
    -@baemie_slunt
  • I'm #PickingMe over Skin Picking today because I care about people intensely and am doing my best to spread some more love in the world and erase mental health stigma. Living with a BFRB isn’t always easy and PRACTICING (yes it is work) self-love can feel really hard sometimes, but one of the most healing tools. It can feel so uncomfortable, but that’s all the more reason to stick at it. The rewards are endless. Be radical, relentless about loving yourself in this moment, exactly as you are. ❤️ Love to everyone out there, no matter what you’re going through. We are all in this together. ❤️
    -Katie, LA, @bfrbmindful

2019 #selflovenote gallery!

Thank you to all those who've participated in our Valentine's Day #selflove campaign!
With your strength and positivity, you truly embody what we stand for at #PickingMe!